To Get more Yes’ to your Business & Life, Do These things, learn to deal with NO, and Say more of that too!
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What the heck is getting to yes? All we wanted was to learn How to get more Yes’s to our business & offers. And we noticed this question was prevalent with most of us attending that webinar, out loud or silently! Its April and the 1st quarter of the year is gone. We already did our quarterly personal audit (you too should learn how here) and had to ask some hard questions and make some tweaks…
Well, it didn’t take long for us to surmise that…
In order to get more yes’s in business and life, You gotta Say Yes to Yourself and to Money as a Home Based Entrepreneur, Internet marketer, or human period. Yet to get to this place, you gotta have some Non-Negotiables in your life or your new “JOB” takes over.
Below are our
OUR 5 NON-NEGOTIABLES:
1. World Citizens – we had to Say Yes to having to live anywhere!
2. Purposeful Intentional Living -Forget Drifting or Indecision, these are Joy & Success Killers. Our life & venture must have a purpose – Including making money Yet Family, health, and Wellness always come 1st!
3. It also must require very few employees, although we do support numerous other entrepreneurs.
4. Freedom – Our venture must offer freedom time and financial sooner or later!
5. Residual Income– Our Enterprise must have strong Residual revenue potential.
These are the cornerstones of our family Vision & Dreams! You too need to know your non-negotiables in order to get more Yes’s in both business and life!
Bottom Line: Perception is Everything! Every day should have a purpose FOR YOU & Those AROUND YOU. People are overwhelmed with the internet. They desire a voice to follow. Someone who knows who & what they are about and have a cup full to share.
So to get more yes’s to your offers, you must say Yes to sharing your journey and produce content that doesn’t add noise, but actually enriches other people’s lives who have the pleasure of finding it and makes you feel accomplished too! It’s a bare-faced lie by those who say they are here ONLY to “support and help others grow or it’s just a hobby.”
In this post, I am going deep into why you must say Yes to Yourself and to life!
#1 How to Get more Yes’s in Business, do the following – Respond Rather than React to Circumstances.
There are several things you can do mentally to hear that Yes more from others.
You see, a lot of us have said a huge No to ourselves, then expect others to say YES to us.
Your mind is your playfield, your movie screen, or your enemy and yet we don’t know this. Many times instead of RESPONDING to situations, We REACT.
Also, it is important to know when to say NO and to be ready to receive the same from others without being attached to the outcome. Remember you too say No to others very often. You just never think about it much. This is all part of Self Love!
If you never say yes to anything or always look for an excuse to get out of things, your life will be dull, lacking in colour and juje… You will drift from one day to another. Attracting other naysayers and excuse givers.
On the other hand, if you always say Yes….To anything and everything! You will be running around trying to please everybody and not really pleasing any esp. you.
You will have no time to enjoy your life, to stop and smell the roses, to enjoy the aromas, to simply know that you took the time to FOCUS on Specific tasks and got results.
Yes saying No to others’ non-essential, time-stealing demands most of the time is saying YES to you more. It sounds contra-intuitive does it?
Well, remember that life is a contrast…You have to find that center to balance your life and live on your terms. We all have the dark and light inside of us. Which one will you give more attention to? That’s what you will end up being.
And if you say yes to success and abundance, truly embrace the journey to success, that’s how to get more yes’s to your business or life journey!
William Ury, sought-after international speaker & author calls it “Getting to Yes with Yourself” watch him delve deeper in Negotiations below.
#2 How to Get more Yes’s in Life – Make a Decision!
Engage with your Differences in a constructive way.
It’s so easy to get a No or Yes these days with the internet, phones, texts, WhatsApp, etc. Communication has got so much easier and yet for many it seems so much harder.
How about you have a quick think first, akin to saving a draft document as you revisit it and tweak it till it feels right. Don’t wait for perfection, you can always re-tweak and refresh your decision. The important thing is to MAKE A DECISION NOW!
If you like the sound of this subject you will love our post on Using a Vision Board as a clarity tool!
Here is why making a decision will help you live a more fulfilled life:
If you want to eat that cake…Go ahead and do so, and don’t beat yourself up for doing it.
Before you do; ask yourself if eating the whole cake will serve your purpose & journey? Do you need to eat any at all? Then make a decision.
Once you have done that. Don’t judge yourself. You had the choice to say no, and guess what allowing your mind and body to enjoy the experience means you will have had a moment of pure enjoyment and joy. It’s what life is about!
On another note…Let me share a story…
Over the weekend I received a text message from someone who wanted a signed support document from me, Immediately! She lives 40 miles away and doesn’t drive…
So I was expected to draft a document, and email it to her, she approves or amends it. Sends it back to me, I print and sign it for her…and here is the thing…I drive the 40 miles and deliver it to her.
For the love of God…! She had been in and out of Liverpool for the past month and never thought to do this thing till she is time tight…
It really reminded me of a Broadcast I did on how to deal with “Other people’s Faux emergencies” You can listen to it here. And you want to subscribe to my podcasts below for more Winning Mindset, Inspirational, and Business Hacks!
#3 How to Get more Yes’s in Life – Beware of Your Time Stealers!
Beware of those things that simply waste your precious time…When you listen to the above broadcast and story before, was that an opportunity for me to say YES or NO? What are your thoughts?
Here is how to deal with a similar situation…unless it’s a life or death matter, ask yourself the questions:
- Is it gonna serve the needs of this situation, how far will it go?
- Do I need to answer this, this very minute?
- If you are the one in need, Before you even pick the phone up and make that call or send that message save it as a draft, think about it and then either delete or send it…LISTEN to the other self inside, your spirit is always awake to your real needs!
In order to say Yes to you and get more yes’s too, you must Observe all people esp. your self
Say YES to yourself more by being mindful of how you can enrich others’ lives better. You cannot pour from an empty cup so don’t stay up all hours supposedly helping a friend out when you could do it better, fresher in the morning, or point them to a better resource.
Make this a month/year of actually getting to your Yes this way! If it is not an emergency, it is detracting from your Personal vision.
Be a lil selfish sometimes. Coz the other person is for sure being self-serving. By creating a faux emergency to get you to do it. A time stealer so to speak.
See how that works? Then try NO next month and see how that works out…Then make a decision to DO which most feels natural and fun!
Here is the wisdom of old:
“If you say Yes, do so without taking on their burdens on you…! Does this make sense to you? Think about it!” ~ George Clason
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#4 Here are the Things You Should Say More Yes to and you will get more Yes’s in Life too:
- Your Little one asking to Play…After all, that’s why you do what you do…to play more! With your loved ones. Wanna play? Yes…something I learned from a book called: “Year of Yes” by Shonda Rhimes. It’s quirky, fun, and helped re-focus my life on what really mattered. You will definitely learn how to get more yes’s from it!
- Your mom calling for a chat…doesn’t matter how late or often. She sacrificed lots for you and now may be lonely and in need of a voice to talk to, esp, if she lives on her own!
- Yes to Love, this is the best Yes!
- Yes to more travel and experiencing new things.
- Yes to exercise, healthy eating and living, even the ouch or aching muscle.
- Yes to a girly or boy chat with a glass of wine or cuppa with a friend!
- Yes to reading more – Interesting and developmental books
- Yes to Calculated Risks aka Opportunities – Nothing risked, nothing gained
- Yes to Meditating
- Yes to dancing more – like no one is watching
Say More NO to These & You will Flourish:
- Other people’s judgment of you, that’s their business.
- Shiny objects…focus on and appreciate what you got, be it a partner, opportunity, body, etc.
- Fear and fearfulness, a total waste of time, serves no one but the unseen enemy!
- Doubt esp. self-doubt Ditto above!
- Gossip and backbiting others, Karma…need I say more!
- Gambling is not the same as taking a Calculated risk!
- Indecision, perfectionism, procrastination, did I say fear of failure?
Final Thoughts on How to get more Yeses to your Business & Life:
You agree that the most important thing is Your Mindset right? – And for that, the only words of wisdom that come to mind are these:
“Be yee transformed by the renewing of your mind…” ~ Bible Verse
Very profound words and as Oprah says;
“you’ll need to Awake to a Greater Light and your world will open up!”
Do you know what that means? Reading more, learning more things that positively enrich your life and business!
GETTING more Yes’s starts with You. We’ve learned that dealing with your inner voice, both negative and positive, and feeding the latter more is key. Negotiating with yourself and doing your best to believe in your power to engage and communicate with others effectively including your “competition.”
We can turn any day into a more enriching experience for ourselves and others by being real with ourselves. Say no if you know it’s a stretch to help out the other, that won’t necessarily enrich them either.
Saying Yes to You first is a proven path to dramatically improving your ability to get to yes with others. Also, begin to LISTEN MORE & Understand others’ real aims and needs, you will also begin to influence them more.
This my friends is how you get more yes’s to your business presentations, proposals, and offers too!
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Like attract like they say and I have found this to be true in my life. When I say Yes it echoes back to me in a myriad of forms. Same is true of when I say no. I get no’s back. I am saying yes to that dancing Julie – loved that gif! 🙂
Bingo Claudette, so very true. Like attracts like. Thanks for your time 🙂
~Pauli
Love this and right on time. I’ve been planning out my routine/schedule as my kids are about to start back to school. I’m trying to ensure I have time for business, home, and self while my little ones are at school. I’ve reached out to “friends” to schedule those lunch dates that they falsely requested during the summer break (you know those empty ones when they already know you aren’t available). Of course, they can’t commit to any dates, but I know I have to say NO to those last minute request they come up with. Why? It’s inconvenient for me. In the past, I’ve always been the one to drop whatever I was doing to say YES to other’s request. Great reminder to me!
Love your fire, Sybil, channel it Sister coz you have the power to catapult your life to ahwole new level and all those youths you teach!
Say more Yes to You!
Julie Syl
Excellent article. I can really use the saying yes to me and the not taking on the problems of others. I am guilty of entertaining time stealers as well. Thank you for the insight. I have pinned for later use.
Hi Clearissa,
Glad you enjoyed and got value. Make it a point to avoid Time Stealers. You are not obliged as an adult to spend your time with anyone you dont wish to.
You have a choice and I hope you will put your foot down hun! 🙂
~Julie Syl
I really like the idea behind having your values and intentions in place and knowing what your non-negotiables are. Then you can make the choices that best serve you. Great post with thoughtful advice!
Hi Michele,
Indeed its essential to have Non Negotiables in your life and business, they form the basis of your start and compass to where you are heading.
Glad you got value 🙂 Thanx for stopping by 🙂
Julie Syl~
Wow you nailed it. This post was so good that I went back and read a second time to pick up all these gems.
Hi Valerie,
Glad you enjoyed and internalised. Super cool, Go get to Your Yes more and enjoy!
Julie Syl~
Your piece of cake says it all. If you decide to eat it, enjoy it without regret. If you choose not to eat it because it is not the best thing for you at this time, then your No to the cake. Could be a Yes to your health, or a Yes to your budget. A Yes to your confidence in your own decision-making.
Thanks for the lesson in Yes even if that means No sometimes.
You got it perfectly Kathleen and thats my aim exactly. Thanks for simplifying it even more and your time 🙂
Julie Syl~
Great post Julie with valuable and helpful insight to getting more yes in our business. It starts from the self belief and confidence to put yourself out there and never give up. Thanks for sharing!
My Pleasure Lynn, and I know its also the gist of your message. Self belief, Never quit! 🙂
Julie syl~
[ Smiles ] Great blog post.
I like the part about producing content that does not add to the noise.
Lol, Glad you like Renard, thanx for your time.
J&PK~
Great philosophy. Like attracts like. If you say more yes to life. It will say yes more to you! Thank you for sharing.
Exactly Kenny, And I am glad you agree. Thanx for your time!
Julie Syl~
Absolutely Kenny and glad you get it indeed 🙂
J&PK~
This is a great philosophy for getting more yes’s in business. Thank you for sharing.
My Absolute Pleasure Bobby 🙂 Glad you agree.
Julie Syl~
Very Powerful Julie!! We Want YES’s So We Gotta SAY Yes To Our Business! Love this 🙂
Absolutely Tara,
If we dont NO one else will 🙂
JUlie Syl~
Yes for Yes.
Changes the entire vibrational of being. Love it
Yes Steve
We love the sound of That 🙂 Thanx for stopping by!
Julie Syl~
I love this post. We have to take time to think before we react. There are times though when we have to say yes. I have always been a person tat takes time to just sit and think before responding.
H Leigh, you got it right mate. Its always good to Take a breath, think for a moment before you jump, lest you take on burdens beyond your endurance and get blamed by the very person yo are trying to help Leigh! Yet sometimes spontaneity is just whats needed…esp. with loved ones 🙂
Julie Syl~
Julie this is amazing. And so very true about the saying yes while saying no I experienced this last night. I had a friend ask me to come have drinks with her, I wanted to go but I needed to say No so that I could say Yes to getting some work done. I also have to say “no” to guest posting often just to focus on my own blog and business! Such an great read.
Hi Dia,
It is so empowering isnt it. The choices we make, we gotta be good with them or we fret about them for ages. I hope your friend understood and you got lots done. Bravo.
Julie Syl~
Nice post Julie! You are right, decision making and the unwillingness to say yes to more things is still something to be worked on! i still am over cautious..dont know if its a good thing or bad! lol!
Hi Suchi,
You gotta dig deeper, Why do you say NO or Yes. Is it to enrich yours or their lives or get rid of them?
How does that feel for you. Do yo feel good whne you make your decisions? Who do they serve…Sometimes its good to say No. Dont beat yourself up!
Julie Syl~
100% agree with you.. We need to say more “YES” to many opportunity… Being a decision maker for ourselves.. Sometimes we’ll ponder, what will that ‘YES’ makes changes to our life.. But we won’t know until we say it!
Glad you agree 100% Kylie Indeed we will never now until we say Yes and then GO DO no trying of maybe once that is done.
we either do it 100% or Dont!
J&PK~
I definitely need to say yes to myself more often. I have a friend who takes FOREVER to make decisions. It annoys me so much!! lol. I will show this to him. These are great tips. Thanks for sharing.
Hi,
Glad you agree and got value. By all means help that friend and share with him. sharing is caring! 🙂
Julie syl~
awesome info you shared to get more yes to your business
Glad you find it awesome Sheena!
J&PK~
That’s awesome, build up the confidence and make sure you’re not welcoming any negative mindset. Thanks for sharing all the tips. I was never good with sales or getting people to say yes to my business proposals, so this is really helpful!
Hi Elizabeth,
Glad you agree and that you got value. We are all born CLOSERS, we get what we want as babies no problem…we then make up our minds we are not good sales people..Yes we are lol! You are I am we all are, we just have to remind our minds and habits hat we are!
J&PK~
You said a lot of important things here but what stands out with me is the snippet about the person who wanted you to drive 40 miles. There is a nice quote that I love: “Your lack of planning doesn’t constitute an emergency on my part.” Or something like that. That person had not told herself yes but expected you to. Doesn’t work that way.
THANK YOU CLAUDETTE.
You literally said it like my Nana would have. Indeed she had failed to plan to succeed and wanted to have someone to blame if she got a NO> Fortunately for her I emailed her an older letter with an e-signature. She go what she wanted, without me driving 40 miles. Thanks for your time 🙂
Julie Syl~
Fantastic post Julie!! Saying yes to yourself first is so important. Everything starts with YOU. You attract what you are.
And saying no to non-serving things such as gambling, gossip, procrastination is so essential.
Thanks so much for sharing this!
Thank You Jelena for your time and your wonderful comment. Glad you agree and got value! 🙂
Julie Syl~
You know when your doing well, when your getting more no’s then yes’s. The key is to provide more value then cost of the service/product.
Really? Now thats weird…In our book Getting More YES is our aim, we make sure we provide so much value those that are ready to say YES come through. Like Cream rises to the top! But I am agog as to how going for NO enriched one! I assume thats your inspiration Carl? To each their own! I agree with the Service and Value 🙂
Julie Syl~
I am a quick decision maker and have never had an issue there but I often can’t say no to others and sometimes that gets me into trouble.
Its always better to take a breath before you say YES to every situation Carrie, You must be running around legless…
When do you get time for you?
J&PK~
Reacting to a no does not help. When people say no, I like to think of it as if they are not ready at this time. I personally do not want anyone to join my business, when they are not ready!
You got it Lorraine 🙂 Thanks for your contribution!
J&PK~
Really good post, very thorough and focused on what you need to do to get more yes’s in your life.
Hi Michael, Glad you find the information thorough and Focused 🙂
Thanks for your time!
J&PK~
I’m definitely going to start saying more yeses to life. Great post Julie
Hi Yemisi,
Indeed its a pleasure when we say YES to US. You will start to see a real awesome change in your life. And usually saying Yes to you Means saying a lot of Nos to non serving nonsense! 🙂
J&PK~
Thanks for these tips and video Julie, very informative post!
You are most welcome Kay. Glad you got value! J&PK~
Love this! I need to start saying yes to more! I’m limiting myself and my options. And I can’t agree more about having the presence of mind to explores others perspectives rather than drive our own agendas!
Yes you do Amy. Start today Be Purposeful about it. Stop limiting your MIND, but definitely limit the distractions! Explore options Life a fuller life!
Julie Syl~
I stay true to everyone – and I think that makes people want to say yes – because they trust me! Trust is so very important!
Its a real good habit to enforce, staying true to YOU GiGi, that way you stay true to otehrs as they see the real you. Trust is engendered that way!
Julie Syl~
Very great advice as usual. We have to decide what we stand for way before the decision is to be taken.
Yes we do Mardene. Cosmic forces then pickup our thoughts which if we turn into actions, makes them habits…!
These habits attract our success! Many people work Darn hard at failing than we work at succeeding!
Thanks for Your time!
Julie Syl~
I totally agree with respond rather than react. I have trouble with the decision making part, though. I usually take too long to make decisions.
When we Respond, we have taken a breath, a thought and given our answer or taken a certain step. when we react, we are all emotion, no plan no thought, usually wont end well in biz! If we do this for others we are also doing them a disservice.
Julie Syl~